Is this you?

1. You haven’t decided anything yet. You’ve just stopped picturing yourself married in five years, and you haven’t said that out loud to a single person.
2. You’re still doing all of it: the job, the kids’ schedule, the mortgage, the dog. Nobody who watches you function has any idea what the last six months have been like.
3. You have the whole argument in your head on the drive home. You win it every time. It changes nothing.
4. Every message you send your ex is calm and reasonable, and holding that line is costing you something you can’t quite put a number on.
5. You say the right things to your kids, then sit in the car in the driveway for ten minutes before you go in.
6. The people who would listen are your friends, and you would rather do almost anything than tell them.
7. It’s been two years. You’re supposed to be past this. You’re not, and you’ve started to wonder whether something is wrong with you.

If more than one of those landed

That’s the work. It’s what I’m best at.

You don’t have to be in crisis to call. Most of the men I work with were still functioning, competently, in a life that had quietly stopped fitting.

If the divorce is done and the hard part now is your ex, the messages, and the handoffs, co-parenting after a divorce has its own page.

If you haven’t decided anything yet

You don’t need to bring your partner. A lot of the men I work with come in because of the relationship and come in alone. The divorce page has more on starting before you’ve decided.

Can we meet online?

Yes, by video, from anywhere in Rhode Island or Washington State, so there’s no office to drive to. For a lot of men that’s the difference between doing this and not doing it.

Sessions, fees, and superbills are on the fees page.