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When the marriage is the one thing you can’t fix.

Therapy for men in Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland, and anywhere else in Washington State or Rhode Island who are considering, going through, or recovering from a divorce. Sessions are by video.

Marcus Berley writing in a notebook at a dark wood table, in a sunlit room with two red armchairs

  • 14

    years in clinical practice

  • 35

    therapists in the practice I led as clinical director, 2022 to 2026

Holding it together

Maybe the marriage is ending. Maybe you haven’t decided anything, and you haven’t said that out loud to anyone yet. You’ve been carrying it alone.

You still show up at work and at the kids’ games. Underneath it you aren’t sleeping, and you replay the same arguments on the drive home. Many of the men I see are ten or twenty years into a marriage.

Therapy gives that somewhere to go: the same hour each week, with someone who has no side in it. We sort out what you want, what’s under the anger, and what to say next.

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How therapy helps

  1. One week at a time

    We meet by video at the same time each week and go over what happened, what it stirred up, and what you want to do differently. Often I’ll suggest a small experiment to try before next time, and then we look at how it went.

  2. What you feel, and what to do with it

    A divorce brings up feelings most men have had little practice with: anger with nowhere acceptable to go, and grief for a marriage you may still want over. As you learn how your own reactions work, they usually run your day a little less.

  3. The hard conversations

    A divorce hands you some of the hardest conversations of your life at once, with no practice runs:

    • Talking to your spouse or ex-spouse without relitigating everything
    • Telling your children without handing them your version of it
    • Deciding who in your life gets told what, and when
    • Getting attorneys, mediators, and marriage counselors to be useful to you

    We work out what you want to say, and how to say it without the other eight things attached.

Marcus Berley, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Marcus Berley

MA, LMHC, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

RI license MHC01416

WA license MHC.LH.60643240

Accepting new clients

“Marcus has enormous generosity of spirit and is extraordinarily skilled at meeting people right where they are.”

Lyn McCarthy, Clinic Administrator

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What stays between us

  • Private pay

    I don’t bill insurance, so no claim or diagnosis goes to an insurer unless you choose to send one a superbill.

  • From wherever you are

    Sessions are by video from your home, your office, or your parked car. There’s no building to be seen walking into.

  • Clinical, never forensic

    I don’t take court work or write evaluations for either side. My role is to help you, and nobody else is a client in it.

Who I work with

How we begin

  • Get in touch

    Call, text, or email, or pick a time on the contact page. I reply within one business day.

  • A 20-minute conversation

    Tell me what’s going on, and I’ll tell you plainly whether I think I can help. There’s no charge for it.

  • A standing weekly hour

    If we go ahead, we settle on a regular time. Sessions are 45 minutes and $250.

Fees, insurance, and superbills

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